Engagement/Wedding Ring Snobbery
It’s been a while since I’ve given you all a Wedding update, but here I am!
Overal Wedding Planning is going well, it’s fairly straightforward for us as we’re using one venue for the whole day and we don’t have a vast list of guests or intricate requirements. I’ve purchased my dress, we’ve purchased Graeme’s outfit, I’m collecting items to build the perfect ‘decor’ for our day. We’ve booked a fantastic photographer and it feels as if everything is really starting to come together.
Which brings me to the important job of picking our wedding rings…
As if the whole concept of a Wedding isn’t a big enough deal when the day came to pick the piece of jewellery that symbolises this commitment, I was feeling a little nervous.
This is the point where I share my unpopular opinion, Graeme wasn’t sure if he wanted to wear a ring or not (jewellery isn’t his thing at all) and I wasn’t bothered if he decided not to wear a ring.
However, we went with open minds and much to our surprise, found two very suitable rings and I think we’ll be going ahead and making the purchase. There are so many choices to make, I wanted a ring that would compliment my engagement ring, without being overpowering. This is why we went to a local business which specialised in custom wedding rings, I wanted to be able to pick something as wonderfully unique as us and to reflect our personalities and tastes.
Which brings me to Wedding/Engagement ring snobbery, I’m hugely proud of my engagement ring as it symbolises the time, effort and consideration that Graeme took to choose something so very ‘me’. Once I’d accepted his proposal, he explained that he’d be agonizing between two rings and took the first one back as he wasn’t 100% sure. I strongly feel that fate played a part in this because I prefer the one he chose. He took into account the style of the engagement ring which belongs to my late Nan, which I treasure so dearly and wear daily.
I chose not to Instagram a close up picture of the ring or flash it in front of friends because I wanted to quietly enjoy those moments when it catches the light and sparkles. Because those moments were ours to share alone. I wanted to enjoy our engagement, without judgement, or being asked 101 questions, including ‘How much did he spend?’ and ‘what happened?’ It is the most expensive piece of jewellery I own, but it’s value to me is so much more than monetary. You can’t value how something makes you feel and the emotions connected to it, I feel if you value things based on price, you’ll forever feel disappointed.
I know women who’ve dedicated Pinterest boards to the perfect rock; then there was this viral thread when one lady complained that her fiancé only spent £1,500.00 on her ring. Whilst looking up wedding ring inspiration and idea’s about how to choose the right thing, I found this gem of an article!
“So I want someone spending the full 3 month’s salary, maybe more, on this ring. I deserve it.”
“The ring should represent me and how well he knows me. That’s what I find romantic. Not the price tag attached to the ring.” – A Woman after my own heart…
“I would want him to spend one month’s gross salary if we are not in any kind of debt or looking to finance something more important”
Whilst of course, if you ask 9 women of various ages and situations, you’ll get a mixed set of replies but it very much reconfirmed the underlining pressure surrounding what is simply metal and precious stones.
I love gold jewellery (yet another unpopular opinion) and I really wanted a diamond and fortunately for me, my dreams of a beautiful ring came true. But what was really a dream come true is the fact that we are going to commit to the rest of our lives together, surely that’s what’s most important?
What are your views on the topic of Wedding/Engagement Rings?