September 21, 2014

What no one tells you about losing weight..

I can still remember the moment that prompted me to lose 4 stone; I was 21 years old and in Selfridges. Now please don’t read this as a narcissistic label bragging moment; I lived at home and I wanted a few pairs of fab jeans and I was torn between Miss 60 and Versace. The only problem was, I was a size 16/18 and these brands didn’t go up to my size. I felt frustrated, left out and angry at the whole situation.

The interesting thing is, I was actually very content in my body, it was the only one I knew and why on earth would I want to change that? This was way before body positivity and learning to love your healthy curves and I was used to hearing “Oh, but at least you have a pretty face”. I’d trained myself not to hear the undertone, which basically implied ‘but you’re overweight’.

One day I woke up and decided I was going to change, I’d been challenged by my Dad and the lure of a new wardrobe and increased energy was appealing. At first, I kept my journey a secret, I knew that certain people would want me to succeed but others wouldn’t be as supportive. Just a tough fact of life really.

The problem is, everyone is so keen to tell you how easy it is to lose your first stone, no one is shouting about the fact the human body naturally reaches a ‘plateau’. No one wants to shout about the weeks when you don’t lose a single lb, when you wonder if it’s all worthwhile and if you’ll ever reach that goal?

On the other hand, people become brutally honest ‘you were rather big‘ and ‘you’re so much more attractive now your slim, I could never date a big girl‘ and they totally disregard that you are still the same person and that comment still hurts. Also, people who never took any notice of you before, in terms of friendship or other suddenly become interested in the ‘new’ you.

My advice is to remember who cared, who supported you and who made you feel uncomfortable. Because losing a significant amount of weight and the changes that happen during this journey, will teach you not only a lot about yourself but who really cares.

Again, rarely discussed but stretch marks are a huge part of weight loss, some people don’t suffer but I did badly and I’m still ‘aware‘ of low jeans because of my beautifully silver lined hips. Fortunately Chemist Direct sent me across this ‘Dermaoil’ to try and it’s been fantastic, the smell is beautiful and the result is none sticky. Due to the severity of my stretch marks, I think it’s going to be a long term commitment to using this daily but they really are fading. It’s just a shame that people only think stretch marks are something new mothers deal with and they forget those who have changed body shape.

For some of us there will be an occasion where our confidence lapses, we worry about our former fuller self when selection a dress or top and suddenly out in public we feel very aware, exposed and unsure of our new shape. I dropped down from a full 36D to an empty 32A and unsurprisingly 10 years later I decided to have a breast augmentation.

We are only human; let’s try not to be hard on ourselves and remember that no matter how you’re made to feel or what you see in the mirror the chances are you’re a thousand times lovelier than you realize

Have you ever seriously changed your body shape? Not just weight loss but toning and muscle mass? Did you ever encounter moments of insecurity?



Disclaimer: Chemist Direct kindly sent me the product for review, I’ve been using it over the past few months and absolutely love it – As always all views are my own.


18 responses to “What no one tells you about losing weight..”

  1. Fit Radiance says:

    I loved your honesty in this post Katie! I can’t believe people made those comments when you lost the weight, shocking! Well done on losing 4 stone (and doing it for you!) That’s such a big achievement 🙂 I only seem to get comments now I’ve lost the stone and a half, saying I’m too skinny, and find my family almost patronise me by saying I shouldn’t be lifting weights because ‘I’m just a little wee thing’, and I actually find that quite offensive! I guess you can never win with people, as everyone has their own opinions. Doing what makes you feel confident and positive, in a healthy way is all that matters 🙂

    • cakevsscales says:

      Thank you Louise, it’s a tough subject and often unspoken..I know I’m not the only one who experienced that hurt..
      I whole heartedly agree that you SHOULD be happy with your body and lifting weights to feel strong and able despite your dainty frame. I’ve got a friend who’s all of about 5’3 and 8stone and she can lift me without a single flinch!
      I think people forget that even if your slim anyway it’s okay to want to change for what’s right for you and it’s not a crime or a illness..’skinny’ is not a nice word because it makes me think of people who are ill and dearly need help – Not those slender and able 🙂

  2. Aimee says:

    This is so lovely and honest. Thanks for saying it. x

  3. Lorna says:

    I wasn’t really sure what to expect from this post, but I’m so glad I read it!
    It’s so nice to read something so honest and from the heart.
    Well said sister!
    Lorna xx

    • cakevsscales says:

      Thank you – That’s lovely to read..I know weight can be a tricky subject to write and read about because there are some terrible articles online so its nice to read people enjoyed it and understood where I was coming from 🙂 xx

  4. laurafat2fit says:

    Love this post, Katie!

    I’ve been through all of this before and your whole post resonates with me.

    Peoples comments before and after weight loss have knocked my confidence. It takes a long time to build it up again afterwards.

    During and after losing a lot of weight, I was very insecure about my body – when on holiday I was always thinking that people were looking at me and when someone laughed near me it made me nervous.

    Even after surgery, it will take time to get out of a mindset of thinking that people are judging you and it takes time, but I’ll get there eventually.

    We just have to keep being ourselves and remember that we’re a much better and healthier person! What we think is all that matters!

    • cakevsscales says:

      Thanks so much for commenting Laura – Your story in particular amazes and inspires me so much. I genuinely don’t know anyone who’s come as far as you.
      You looked great before surgery and now you look amazing and that’s what I felt it was important to add that sometimes after losing weight our bodies are not the same, we sag, we have excess bits and soft area’s and that’s something you can’t really understand unless you’ve been there.
      The laughing and staring is awful, when I went to the gym often I would convince myself that people where staring because they thought I was fat or unfit..when really they where just passing the time!
      Next time we are on holiday and in bikini’s we should make a pact to hold our heads up high and be super proud! 🙂

  5. What a great post, and very relevant for so many people. I never lost a dramatic amount of weight, but I have definitely seen this happen to some friends of mine when they are losing weight. I feel like it is so mean of people to make comments like ‘you’re so much more attractive when you’re slim’ .. how is that supposed to make people feel?!
    Toning up is def an issue for me. I am quite slim but I feel as if my genetic makeup really fights me on this one haha.
    Thanks for the great post and glad I found your blog 🙂 xx

    • cakevsscales says:

      Thank you for your comment – lovely to hear from you! I was going to say ‘oh your so lucky being naturally slim’ but that’s just a bore! We can’t help how we are all naturally built and we can’t mess with good ole genetic’s ..Glad you enjoyed the post 🙂 x

  6. Aankhi says:

    Till date, I have lost 3st 4lbs and I am looking to lose few more. The loss has been over several years, which gave me time to learn to eat healthy and adapt my lifestyle such that I eat healthy most of the time out of habit. This is something that most other people do not seem to understand. Firstly, just because I am eating healthy, people assume that I am on some sort of restrictive diet which is not true at all. I still eat when I have cravings, only in moderation. Nobody needs to eat junk food when they do not want it to appease people. Secondly, I often feel that people “frown upon” or “judge” based on weight loss attempts to the extent that I used to felt embarrassed to admit that I am trying to lose some body fat. I have, thankfully, learnt better since then though!

    This post was absolutely spot on! 🙂

  7. Nick Jones says:

    Fab read Katie! Very honest and something’s to think about. I have said to so many people “you look so much better now you have lost weight” not thinking they are the same person!

    Lesson learned 🙂


    • cakevsscales says:

      Hi Nick *waves* – It was so lovely to see your name in my inbox! & hello to the beautiful Hayley too!
      I don’t think you are ever offensive and you only mean good, so it’s really not a issue! 🙂
      Stay cool folks! xxx

  8. Vicky says:

    I’m feeling exactly this right now. I’ve just lost 4st and now I feel a little lost, anxious & nervous of my new body. I feel ashamed of my before photos and I feel nervous about talking about my new body in case people think I’m boasting/showing off especially to friends still struggling to lose weight.
    It really is a new learning curve and it’s going to take time to get used to.

    • cakevsscales says:

      Hi Vicki – Firstly huge congratulations to you, losing 4st is a HUGE thing (I really do relate) and you should feel proud of your accomplishment..
      It is hard to find the balance but I don’t think people will think you are showing off, I think they’ll find it inspirational and encouraging which is a good thing!
      Of course, it is going to take some getting used to but embrace your beautiful new figure and keep up the self love! 🙂 xx

  9. Yes to all of this. So eloquently put!

    Losing substantial weight doesn’t always feel great. I got A LOT of “You look well”s which is neither a good-for-you kind of compliment or a I’m-going-to-admit-I’m-Jel.

    The hardest thing is not knowing how to start toning up. I’d love to be able to and also to kick the major carb addiction I have….they’re my last hurdles and I can’t find a way to even start. It’s entirely demotivating.

    I would never have known you were bigger at all, you’ve got such a healthy attitude. Well done on losing all of your weight and finding your happy!

    B xx

  10. Kirsty whawell says:

    This is a great blog Katie. Thank you. I am on the same journey, and have lost 3 stone but another 3 to go. I am determined but sometimes I fall off the wagon. This resonated with me so much. You look fabulous and have a brilliant outlook and attitude. Thank you xkx

    • Katie G says:

      Hi Lovely lady, thank you so much for your kind comment, I think you are doing fantastically with your weight loss journey. 3 Stone down is absolutely incredible, you can absolutely smash your goal! xx

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