Wedding Planning : The Start…

Reader, I am stressed.

Admittedly, with everything else going on in the world this feels very self-indulgent and almost inappropriate. But, I feel that sharing my feelings and concerns helps me ease my worries and a problem shared can be a problem halved?

So, you might have read that we’re engaged – Hurrah!

In my own little-excited bubble, I’ve started pinning wedding dresses, dreaming of fancy shoes and practising my new signature as ‘Katie B’, so far so good right?

Source : Miss Zeit

Not quite….

You see, we aren’t hugely traditional and we don’t want a huge white wedding. I’ve got a lot of time and love for those who dream of the fairy tale, I adore looking at the pictures and hearing the stories…Yet, it’s not for me.

I’m not particularly drawn to traditional wedding dresses, or white, I almost want to stumble down the aisle in something along the lines of a bohemian princess, with sparkling shoes.  That’s very me and how my partner would expect me to look. With this in mind, I dipped my toe into the sea of wedding dress shopping, I looked at a few price tags and felt that I was sinking, not swimming.

I know what you’re thinkingKatie, listen weddings are expensive, it’s one of the most important days of your life’….

…..I understand, I really do, and on the other hand that doesn’t mean that I want to comply.

Source – Apartment 34

Personally, I’d rather we used the money elsewhere, my dream is for us to go on an adventure honeymoon that we’ll never forget and I don’t feel the need to impress or please others. I’m fast learning that it’s never as simple as that, I’m also learning that everyone has an opinion on your ideas and it’s the people I wouldn’t expect.

All of a sudden, everyone is a wedding expert, I kid you not.

Oh you simply must go there’

Oh but it’s only a one off and we’d love it if you did this’

‘What about everyone else? What will they do after? Don’t you think that venue is very formal? You can’t have a wedding without an evening meal or entertainment’

‘You’ll never manage on that sort of budget’

‘People won’t want to travel that far’

 

I started thinking on my feet and downloaded some ‘check lists’ to see if I could find some inspiration, the first thing I saw on a few lists was the reminder to lose some weight. My heart filled with sadness, my partner wanted to marry me at this weight, why should I change?

My head had a whole new set of ideas…

*Maybe you should slim down, you’ll look better in a wedding dress…

*Most people slim for the wedding don’t they?

*Maybe I should weigh myself?

*Really, I should stop downloading stupid lists which contain idea’s I’m never going to act upon and actually don’t need to act upon.

 I started to wonder, when did it become less about marrying the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with and more about putting on a show? Perhaps we’ll just rock up to the venue, him in his ’uniform’ of jeans, a t-shirt and trainers and me? If all else fails, I’ll wear yoga pants…

So, over the next year, I’ll be sharing some update’s on how I’m getting on with juggling wedding planning, two jobs, endless events and life. Alongside some creative ideas on how to work within a budget without having to settle on style, maybe there’s a creative side of me waiting to get out?  Oh, and of course, I’ll try and get some snaps when I finally go wedding dress shopping….

Any hints, tips or ideas? Please, I’d be delighted to hear your comments or read your blog posts so feel free to share!

Katie

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14 Comments

  1. July 26, 2017 / 7:22 pm

    When I got married things were so simple – I had a dress made, it cost me less than £100 back in 2000; I bought flat shoes for another £100. Hair – done professionally. Make up – done by myself. Jewellery – none. Wedding rings – small white gold bands. We booked a small church in Australia, family decorated it with flowers at the end of the pews. Priest – my husband’s uncle 🙂 Videographer – husband’s other uncle 🙂 Music for ceremony – small quartet playing classical music. Photographer – most expensive element. Dinner for 50. No special dance – my husband cannot dance. No partying into he night as we were off to our honeymoon early the next morning 😀 I think you can keep the event low key but still have it be super special. Sort out venue / food / music / guest list first and then worry about little details like your dress or your shoes or the decorations. Sorry, not much practical advice here but just remember it’s YOUR and your husband’s day – you’ve got to be comfy, yet feel pretty, you want to eat well and have fun with good music.

    • Katie G
      July 27, 2017 / 8:51 pm

      Oh, your wedding sounds beautiful and I love the handmade dress/flat shoes idea.
      It’s very pressured these days and I just want to wear the most beautiful dress, but be able to eat all the food and I don’t want to dance. I can’t dance and we arnt..that type? Staying true to us is most important.
      The fact so many of your family members pulled together is wonderful, I hope that our families will do the same…

  2. July 27, 2017 / 1:53 pm

    How awful about those lists! I am not into weddings either, and if I was to get married it would be with as few people as possible present, and no white dresses or flowers or anything else. I am sure people will tell you what they want, but ultimately it is you getting married, so just please yourself- people will get over it in the end.!

    • Katie G
      July 27, 2017 / 8:52 pm

      I’m not into traditional wedding dresses, although I’m happy there are more modern twists around thankfully!
      We are only going to have 20 people and I’m happy about that, keeping it low key and true to us is the most important factor..
      I do hope people will get over it 🙂

  3. August 2, 2017 / 3:11 pm

    My husband and I had a 6 week wedding (as in 6 weeks from engagement to ceremony, for personal reasons) and it cost us less than £3000 including the dress, and I do the whole designer white fishtail dress because that was just part of my dream but I totally understand it’s not everybodies!

    We got married in a registry office in a different city but paid for a coach to transport guests to and from the ceromony to our reception in a local brewery that has a beautiful hall for hire.

    I decorated the room myself the day before, made my own bouquet, and ordered sandwiches and scones from my local greasy spoon and put them onto cake stands for afternoon tea (for 2.50 a head!) and we loved every minute of it.

    If you have a clear idea of what you want and have a lot of friends to help you do things yourself there is no need for it to be stressful or expensive! I would 100% have had the same wedding if I’d had 6 years to plan it!

    • Katie G
      August 6, 2017 / 8:51 am

      That sounds absolutely wonderful and it very similar to our ideas and the sort of budget I want to work with. I do want a beautiful dress and lots of cake, but mostly I want laughter and to marry the man I love.
      I’m loving the fact that you decorated the venue yourself, I’m going to do the same 🙂

  4. August 4, 2017 / 6:42 am

    What I have found is you really just need to put your foot down. You are the bride at the end of the day it’s your wedding (& the groom i guess ;)) but especially if you are paying for it then it’s your choice. My mum is constantly making suggestions and comments and my dad turns around to her and is like ‘it’s Jenns wedding, leave her to it’

    I hope it all goes well and you start enjoying planning it together <3 xxx

    • Katie G
      August 6, 2017 / 8:53 am

      Hi Jenna,
      You are so right, everyone just wants to help but they need to remember that it’s our big day and we’ll only do it once. I never realised it was such a hugely pressured event until the time came for me to plan a wedding.
      I hope your wedding planning is going well?
      xxx

  5. August 4, 2017 / 7:22 am

    It’s funny, I did slim down for the wedding, to fit in a nice wedding dress – and it turned into a new lifestyle, this is how I became what I am now. I wasn’t a blogger when I was planning my wedding, so I have nothing to share, but I can just mention my favorite bits. I used some ideas from pinterest and the one that everyone loved was the personalized table numbers. They weren’t in any particular order, just numbers that mean something to us – 500 days of engagement, 2 dogs that are waiting for us at home, 3 parents that can’t be with us. And I asked a painter friend to draw something and they turned out into nice framed pictures, people took them home! I guess we were lucky that we had the wedding in Romania so it was pretty cheap.
    The best advice I can give is: do it for you, do what makes you happy. No matter where you want to have the wedding, if someone really wants to share the day with you, they will be there.

    • Katie G
      August 6, 2017 / 8:57 am

      Oh, Andeera that sounds absolutely wonderful, I love unique ideas and I think it’s so important to be true to you. We have people that won’t be with us and I want to make sure that they are a part of the event too! I do wonder if I can find a way to include our cat? 😀
      I’m glad that losing weight led you to a better lifestyle, it did for me too back in the day 🙂
      xx

  6. August 4, 2017 / 9:35 am

    This resonates with me a lot, I find the wedding industry fascinating and perplexing, and very not me. My partner and I are pretty sure we’ll get married (because marriage is important to us) but the wedding bit kind of terrifies me – all those expectations! One thing that I’ve found helps is that we’ve started a banned list so that when the time comes we’ll be clear about what we don’t want (no first dance, no speeches, no walking 10,000 miles) so we can focus on what reflects us and what we do want (DJ sets, meat, glitter). Looking forward to following your journey! Xx

  7. Katie G
    August 6, 2017 / 9:01 am

    Ahhh very similar views to me!
    No first dance, but we’ll play music that’s important to us…
    No walking 10,00o miles!!!!!
    No seating plan, just let folk be natural and sit with whoever they want too!
    It’s wonderful when you are both on the same side and have the same idea’s..
    x

  8. August 11, 2017 / 6:23 am

    So nice to hear more people are skipping the dancing! I always thought we were the weirdos but we wanted to be comfortable and we can’t dance so that was that! 🙂

    • Katie G
      August 11, 2017 / 5:51 pm

      I can’t dance, hell I don’t think I could even shuffle!

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