June 5, 2015

30 Years Of Learning.

In May I hit a milestone.

I turned 30.

I have learnt so much in my journey from 20 to 30 and I’m not the same person at all, as matter of fact, I’ve become the person I never thought I would. I’m far from perfect, I don’t know it all, I make plenty of mistakes on my journey through life. In fact, my journey over the last 10 years has really taught me a lesson or two and I’m sharing just a few thoughts and opinions I’ve picked up along the way…

*Success takes time: There are many different forms of ‘Success’ – for example in becoming a faster runner, in working more efficiently, in friendships, in loving yourself and please keep in mind that nothing worth having is easy.

*Want to ‘Burn 800 calories in 30 minutes?’: Place a pizza in the oven at the highest possible heat, leave for 30 minutes et volia! What I’m trying to say is, if you can, try to see through all the marketing nonsense and enjoy working out..

*Stop comparisons: It really is the thief of all joy; be you and embrace being you and all the lovely little quirks that come with being yourself and not trying to be ‘the cool girl’.

*Make mistakes: you may find them so much fun, that you make them again.

*Make people feel good: Give a compliment and MEAN it, don’t feel inclined say something to boost the ego of someone you admire, save it for when they really do need it. It’s worth learning that those whom are rude, angry or negative towards you are often the people who need kindness the most.

*Own at least one pair of fabulous shoes: Save up, buy them with the money you’ve worked hard to earn and enjoy the whole process of feeling like Beyonce. You know; strutting into the bar in your fabulous shoe’s, feeling independent, strong and in control. It doesn’t matter if your fabulous shoes are trainers and you’re heading to the track, just own it and enjoy the moment.

*But remember labels aren’t everything: Just because something or someone doesn’t glitter, it doesn’t make it/them worthless of your time – Be a little bit of a Magpie, but not too much of a Magpie.

*Cut Toxic Friendships:  Whilst there are people I should make time for and do really enjoy the company of, there are one or two people I had to cut because they just weren’t good for me. It’s not that the people in question are ‘terrible people’ it was simply the fact that I would leave the meeting feeling deflated/annoyed/with a comment playing on my mind.

*Understand its okay not to be ‘okay’: Life is hard, it’s pressured, things go wrong, you’ll be disappointed, and sometimes it’s impossible to smile or even find one single thing to feel happy about. Never forget that depression is not a dirty word.

*Thin does not equal fit: Oh my, when I was 21 (and I knew ‘everything‘) I was convinced that thin = fit and healthy and I feel a little embarrassed to even admit that. Fitness and health is not gained by reaching a certain number on the scales or dress size, it really is a completely personal journey/lifestyle/choice.

*Be honest: With yourself and with others, the beauty of honesty is that you’ll never have to remember what you told someone and even though it hurts at times, people appreciate the truth.

*Understand that goals change:  At 20 I was aiming for a Porsche, Husband and child by 30. I have a long term boyfriend, a beautiful home which we own together (the kind of home I never expected to be able to own) and a beautiful Bengal cat called Lily and I’m extremely lucky and I’m pretty darn content.

*Laugh: Every. Single. Day

*Don’t follow the crowd: I wanted to love yoga, I wanted to embrace the lifestyle, I wanted to enjoy those amazing vibes but it wasn’t always clicking with me, so I took a rain check. We all have moments when we think that we should like something, perhaps in order to ‘fit in’ yet if the passion is not there that will emerge.

*Fat can be good: It took me 29 years to realise that there is such a thing as ‘Good’ fat and that I now embrace and enjoy this as part of my everyday diet, hurrah..

*Staying young: It’s not just a ‘miracle cream’, it’s about sleeping enough, smiling, eating a balanced diet, drinking plenty of water and being content. My Grandmother is in her 70’s, she’s in great shape, she’s full of energy, intelligent, beautiful and balances horse riding, walking, a huge social life and being a grandmother/mother/friend and she proves staying young is the little things, mainly the right mind-set.

No matter how old you are, I’d love to hear any nuggets of advice you’d give your younger self or others?



18 responses to “30 Years Of Learning.”

  1. Mary says:

    Happy belated birthday!
    I turned 30 back in October and had always expected to be in charge of my life and know where I was going by 30. I can tell you now, that completely is not the case!…But I think that is OK. Life would be rather boring if I was in the same routine day after day and knew exactly where I was headed. I like a little surprise now and again!

  2. helennorwood2014 says:

    Happy birthday for May! Great tips! I’m not sure we ever completely get life figured but sounds like you’re in a good place with you’re life

  3. See this is why you’re awesome lovely! So much truth and honestly in this post 🙂
    I love this post because a lot of it is exactly how I felt when I turned 30! I had a minor freak out about actually being 30 and not having achieved all those things that naive 21 year old me thought I would have by the time I was 30 but then I had a word with myself and thought do you know what you’re pretty awesome as you are and things will fall into place when they are meant to not before.

    One thing I realised and a quote I still have on my wall today is ‘People will love you. People will hate you and none of it will have anything to do with you!’ I used to freak out when people didn’t like me. I wanted everyone to want to be my friend but do you know what? That’s not real life. We won’t all get on, we aren’t all meant to be friends. I live life now with the attitude of as long as you are pleasant and polite to everyone even if they are not your cup of tea you are doing what you can to make the world better. There is no need to give out bad vibes, distance yourself from those who like you said are toxic for you but don’t get involved with negativity.

    A great post that is definitely being added to my super sunday list later today 🙂

    Thanks for sharing your wisdom.


    • cakevsscales says:

      Thank you so much for such a lovely comment – You really made me smile 🙂
      I completely agree with the fact not everyone is going to like you, I found that really hard to understand and accept..I care too much what people think at times and I forget that ‘people don’t think of you half as much as you think they do’. But by accepting that we can move forwards and feel contents and enjoy the company of those that DO like us.
      If I’m being honest, I still surprises me now how naive I was at 21..I know not all 21 year old’s are but my I had some growing up to do! 🙂
      I’m heading across to your blog now (thank you again!) xx

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  5. Fit Radiance says:

    I hope you had a fabulous birthday Katie! 🙂
    I’m creeping up to 30 in a couple years (where has the time gone?!) It feels like I was 20 just yesterday, yet like you, I feel like a different person!
    Brilliant tips. I can relate to all of them 😉

  6. Great tips and a happy birthday!!! I’m about to publish a post about my 39th birthday. A little bit of wisdom in that but mainly about getting through a case of midlife crisis 🙂

    My main tips would be: don’t compare yourself to anyone else, let yourself be not-perfect, if you have a choice between being right and being kind, be kind.

  7. Shen says:

    Happy belated birthday! Loved this post so much, especially the bit about shoes. I’m going to follow that piece of advice 😉 xx

  8. Tubontherun says:

    Happy (super belated) birthday lovely! Very much yes to all the things you have said! x

  9. Hi Kate,

    Happy belated birthday! Just been looking at your blog – it’s really cool! How did you design it?
    Also, how was it turning 30?? I turn 30 in November :-/ hanging onto my 20’s for dear life! xx

    • cakevsscales says:

      Hello lady! Thank you for your lovely comment, I’ve only just changed over the layout…I hated the previous one! However there’s still a huge amount of tweaks to be made. To be honest, turning 30 feel’s no different at all..infact it’s rather fun, I have a good feeling you’ll enjoy it..xxx

  10. Nick says:

    Hi Katie

    I just read this and though “O My God we have missed Katie’s birthday! ” then I remembered you are a may baby like us!

    Husband and child by 30, we was the same, we have now pushed this up to 35, I still feel to much of a child myself to be looking after one!

    Missing you and big G.


    • cakevsscales says:

      Hi Nick, So lovely to hear from you both! Ahhh It’s a old post, I am recycling them on social media as I’ve been a little behind with my posting lately! I don’t need a child right now, I have G and Lily! LOL I do agree that 35 sounds like a more sensible age to me! xxxxxx

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